Are you shy of disappointing your kids? Over the last few episodes, Abigail and Elle have been decoding emotional projects – in part one we looked at noticing behaviors which signal an emotional project, and in part two we spoke about when and how to work on an emotional project using the Hand in Hand tools. Why it’s OK to Disappoint Our Kids For the last part in this series, we’re taking a look at how disappointment is linked to the emotional project, why we, as parents, are so scared of disappointing our kids and why disappointment is both unavoidable and a totally acceptable part of parenting. If you ever fund yourself torn about saying no to your child or have a hard time setting boundaries with them, listen in as we discuss the plus side of disappointing our kids, it’s role in building resilience and – despite all the odds – closeness. Listen to Why Are We Parents so Scared to Disappoint our Kids? and find out why when we disappoint our kids – and support them through it – we can impart some useful life lessons. Find out: Why parents will always disappoint their kids How to reframe disappointment […]
This week we define how deep-rooted fears cause emotional projects, and how parents experience them as well as children. 000004F3 000004F3 00010357 00010357 00166F5E 00166F5E 00007B8A 00007B8A 00001729 00001729 source http://handinhandparenting.libsyn.com/ep-47-working-with-a-childs-rigid-behaviors
Ever feel like you are trying to cope with every common child behavior problem in the book? Won’t get dressed Doesn’t want to eat breakfast Won’t brush teeth Keeps throwing toys Has a tantrum every time you leave Always begs for more screentime Never wants to go to sleep Doesn’t listen Constant whining Every single request seems like it’s met with resistance. If someone were to ask you what you are up against in your parenting, you’d shout “everything!” It’s frustrating It’s draining It’s totally upsetting And it makes parenting feel just about impossible. What if One Thing Was Causing These All of These Problem Behaviors? What if we told you that actually, there is one central issue here? That there is one challenge you have to tackle. One thing is driving all these challenging, rigid behaviors? And that when you understand what that issue is and begin working on it, you’ll see these problem behaviors dissolve. This week Elle and Abigail are talking about the times when nothing seems right for your child, when every interchange feels like a power struggle, and how you can get to the root of the issue to stop the behaviors that drive you so […]
To share, or not to share, is that the question? So many parents in our parent groups and The Parent Club come to us with questions about sharing, it’s a subject that we knew we had to cover! Why is sharing such a hot-topic conversation? Well, sharing brings on big feelings for parents and children and there are so many differing thoughts and views on how to handle sharing. And sharing can feel unfair, or questionable. Like when your child demands another child’s toy at a playgroup, for instance, it can feel like second nature to make him or her wait. But when another child demands a toy from yours, we often feel propelled to hand it over. But, what if we went beyond what fair sharing looks like, and into why sharing so often doesn’t happen? What if we treated the symptom, instead of the problem? Try This Entirely New Spin on Sharing So today, Abigail and Elle share an entirely new spin on parenting, with some concrete tools on handling sharing with the children in your lives. Join us this week and listen to An Entirely New Spin on Kids and Sharing More Resources About Sharing At Hand in Hand Parenting, […]
We all have the potential for greatness. To develop and express our greatness, we must possess the passion and drive to live our lives with calculated risks and an attitude of faith. When we strive for greatness, when we strive to give all we’ve got to achieving our dreams, “success” is the secondary benefit. Greatness lies in the journey, not the result. If success is our only drive, we may achieve financial wealth, but we may not achieve greatness. Greatness is much deeper than money. Greatness is an expression of our character. 1. Leadership Greatness in leaders is expressed though a positive attitude. For this reason, we must add a positive attitude to everything we do. When we do this, it causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events and outcomes to come our way. Our positive attitude must be powerful enough to infect every one of our team members. It is our attitude that motivates our team members to achieve the goals that have been placed in front of them. How we respond to our team members when the stakes are high and the consequences really matter is what helps them to be fearless. As leaders, we must lay the […]
Have you ever heard of the terms “metabolic damage” or “starvation mode”? Odds are you have – I just Googled it and it came back with almost 68 million results. Or maybe you’ve used an online calorie calculator and found that it’s asking you to eat significantly more calories than you’re currently eating, leaving you confused and positive that it’s going to make you gain weight if you eat that much. What is Metabolic Damage? “Metabolic damage” has become the go-to term for the premise that your body gains bodyfat very easily on a modest amount of calories, and it requires a significant amount of low calorie intake and high calorie expenditure to produce any tangible weight loss or fat loss. It’s not a medical issue, but simply an adaptation by your metabolism to survive in an extreme energy deficit. “Starvation mode” is a very non-scientific way of saying that when you restrict food intake too hard, you’ll cling onto everything you do get. So how do these things fit into the big picture when it comes to weight loss and bodyfat loss? Is something wrong with your body? Do you need to be “fixed”? Probably not. – you just have […]
After inspecting my ankle, the doctor told me to strengthen it by doing a hundred calf raises a day. I try to do them whenever a few minutes present themselves: when soup is heating, coffee is brewing, or something is downloading. After a few dozen reps, the calves really start to burn. I hadn’t done calf raises for years, and it turns out my relationship to that burning is very different than it used to be. Having done a fair bit of weight training since then, I hadn’t quite realized that I now enjoy the burning sensation of fatiguing muscles. I’ve come to know it as the feeling that goes with getting stronger. I used to hate this same feeling. It was the feeling of slogging through the final laps in gym class, dying to hear the buzzer go. It was the feeling of awkwardly holding up a plank while I waited for my dad to put in all the screws. Interestingly, the physical side of this muscle-burn feeling is the same as it ever was. It’s still uncomfortable. It’s still a relief when I can stop and rest. But my psychological relationship to it has completely reversed. Instead of trying to […]
