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Jan
01
Why Your Best New Year’s Resolution Could Be “No Resolutions”…
Why are we always compelled to start a new year with a list of resolutions that even a saint would be hard-pressed to keep up with? If there’s one thing every good parent is good at, it’s over-extending! We’re all about the #parentgoals!
We are so happy to be starting the new year with you, our beautiful, caring community of parents. We know that you being here each week with us is because you are always striving to be doing better by your kids, in your parenting, in your communities.
That’s not a New Year’s flight of fancy, that’s a constant, and that’s amazing.
And while we think there’s nothing wrong with new year’s resolutions, creating new habits, bettering ourselves or developing new skills, we also see the pressure in that. Lots of pressure to do more, generate more, be more.
So, how about we DON’T make New Year’s resolutions? Instead, why don’t we do something equally as mindful, equally as transformative, and, some might say, just a little bit easier?
We’re not talking self-care, more self-preservation. Because let’s face it, we already have PLENTY on our plates.
Join us this week on the podcast for an uplifting new take on New Year’s resolutions, and start 2019 a little less stressed and a lot more supported.
Listen to Why Your Best New Year’s Resolution Could Be “No Resolutions”…
More Resources about Parenting And Resolutions
If you really have your heart set on making some new resolutions this year (go mama, go papa) you might enjoy last year’s New Year’s podcast – the one Elle mention’s this week: Making Changes: New Year’s Resolutions That Actually Succeed
If commitment is something you are working on in your family, this post will help: How to Help Your Child Keep Commitments
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Dec
12
My Child is Hitting: Parenting The Problem, Not the Punch
What should I do when my child hits?
It’s one of the most common questions we get at Hand in Hand Parenting, and it’s the content of this week’s podcast. And no wonder. Hitting can feel dangerous. Offensive. Confusing.
But if hitting is so common, why are we all still wondering what to do about it?
There’s so much differing advice!
What Are Children Really Saying When They Hit?
Abigail talks about all the quick-tip strategies out there and why they might work at first but why so often they fail in the long-term.
We look at what children might be communicating through hitting, whether it’s a (somewhat misguided) attempt at play or as an expression as deep-rooted fear, and Elle admits completely misreading some of her child’s hitting behaviors.
Understanding Hitting and other Defiant Behavior
And although we don’t encourage hitting, we talk about why parenting the punch itself doesn’t actually ease the problem but instead pushes the feelings causing a child to hit to one side. They may disappear for now, but they (and the hitting) will soon be back again.
So, we talk about what parenting the problem and not the punch actually means:
- Get wise to why your child hits and how to respond accordingly
- How to keep protected and still lean into the hitting
- How hitting can offer room for growth and connection as you partner with your child and move past hitting
Listen to Hitting: Parent the Problem, Not The Punch and learn to set limits around hitting and respond in the way your child really needs you to. Because if you truly want to solve your child’s hitting, you have to do the least obvious thing first – accept it.
More Resources For Parenting When Your Child Hits
Elle mentioned the post When Your Toddler Hits You in this episode. Read it to discover more about this new perspective around hitting.
We did a podcast with play expert Lawrence Cohen on aggressive play, how to manage it so that it helps reduce a child’s aggressive behaviors. Listen to it here.
Learn how to lean into the first stages of aggression with a vigorous snuggle.
You might also like this article on partnering with your child which is what we are really talking about in this podcast,
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Nov
27
A Love Letter to Parents
If you were to see a job description for a role where non-stop, around-the-clock care was compulsory, and there was no training and no overtime, would you take it?
Probably not!
Yet, it’s what we all sign up for when we become parents.
Hand in Hand Parenting exists to support parents in this crazy difficult role, and it’s why we make this podcast each week! We love love love you parents for showing up here, united in your care and devotion to raising your kids the best you can. What an amazing community!
And so, this week, Abigail and Elle wanted to celebrate your role as parents and all you do that is seen and unseen. Take this as an inspirational message for parents everywhere.
If you are in need of support, nurturing and community, welcome. Listen to A Love Letter to Parents now and take a minute to pause, reflect and love yourself a little.
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Please share this inspirational message for parents with those you might know who would like and value the support of our beautiful community. You are the parents who will #changeparenting for the next generation, making it a more supported and understood role.
More Resources To Support Your Role as A Parent
“The way that we relate to children, on the whole, is the most powerful engine for what changes the future,” says psychologist Robin Grille, in this stirring interview with Hand in Hand’s Roma Norriss. Watch Parents Are the Most Powerful Activists There Are
Hand in Hand Parenting helps parents stop yelling and start connecting. Read how in How Hand in Hand Scholarships Help Parents Stop Yelling and Start Playing
What causes parents to feel isolated, stressed, and overwhelmed? Get Five Revolutionary Tools that will help you relax and enjoy your parenting more. Sign up for your free guide now.
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Nov
06
Reframing Your Past Could Be The Key To More Confident and Content Parenting
Psychologist and parenting expert Ross Greene coined quite the term when he said that “Kids do well when they can,” but isn’t exactly the same true of parents?
Reframing your past could be the key to getting there, and becoming a more confident, calm and content parent.
Why?
It’s highly unlikely that any of us here set out to be terrible parents, so why do we often end up feeling that way?
This week, Abigail and Elle are looking at trauma and the ways that past traumatic experiences can reverberate in our parenting. Elle asks what exactly trauma is, and we look into identifying trauma and its after-effects.
Past trauma can stall us in our belief and ability to parent consciously, but reframing these experiences can help us heal well and move on. Abigail shares a deeply moving account of her pregnancy trauma and how reframing her devastation transformed it into something positive and warm. Much of this came down to the tools she used after discovering Hand in Hand Parenting.
Listen this week and find out how the Hand in Hand tools can help you retell your trauma story, heal and move on.
Listen to Reframing Your Past Could Be The Key To More Content Parenting.
More Resources on How Hand in Hand can Help Parents and Children Recover from Trauma
This article on Re-writing Your Trauma Story is the one Abigail refers to in the podcast and shares the steps she used to retell her story. We hope that this is useful for you too.
You’ll find more ideas about the brain’s ability to heal thanks to neuroplasticity and more ideas about using the tools to move on from toxic stress
And in Can Hand in Hand Heal Complex Trauma you can read how the tools help children through traumatic experiences
Watch Ross Greene talking about how kids do well when they can in this video
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Oct
16
Two Ways To Conquer Separation Anxiety
Changes in routine or surroundings often trigger separation anxiety, and as parents, we often see it play out at daycare or school drop-off. And it’s really no secret why. We rush to get out on time, we have our never-ending running to-do list chattering, and on top of that we see other children run off happily to meet friends while our own tearful child clings to our legs crying, and all in front of the teacher.
No wonder Elle says that even the words “separation anxiety” have her breaking out in a cold sweat.
It’s also the reason we wanted to make Separation Anxiety our focus on the podcast this week. Abigail and Elle explore how to use Hand in Hand’s Parenting tools to ease separation stress. And we talk about two tools that have had helped bring profound changes for kids with fears about separation.
Listen to Two Ways To Conquer Separation Anxiety and get support for when:
- Your child clings to you when it’s time to leave and frequently resists new things
- You are confused what to when separation anxiety hits
- You are losing patience with the crying
- You’ve ever had a hard time saying goodbye to your own child
Number 4 is crucial to understanding how separation feels for you and why that might be – as Elle recently discovered.
We’ll also be talking about the not so obvious ways that the stress of separation and fear can show up in other areas.
Listen in now, for some immediately actionable tools you can use to conquer separation anxiety in your family today.
More Resources for Conquering Separation Anxiety
This article can be used to lighten the tension of separation anxiety 20 Playful Ways To Heal Separation Anxiety
If you want to learn concrete tools to address anxiety, stop the behavior, and strengthen your child’s relationship this class will help – Say Goodbye to Separation Anxiety
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Oct
10
Lying: Why Children Lie And Ways to Respond
Have you ever?
- Watched as your child did something and then immediately blame someone else?
- Heard, “I have no homework,” from your child and then discovered it stuffed at the bottom of her school bag?
- Had a parent come to you and congratulate you on your new car / your child’s new triumph in soccer or trombone / or to wish you well on an upcoming trip – none of which you know anything about?
This week on the podcast Abigail and Elle are looking at the lies our kids tell and why.
And we discuss practical strategies you can use when you discover your child in a lie – that don’t rely on punishment.
Join us this week on the podcast and discover:
- Why lies are so commonly misunderstood
- Asking and answering the question: Should I ignore lying or insist on the truth or something in between
- Ways to help a child that lies without using punishment
- How to find lightness in the lies
Listen now to Children Lying: Why Children Lie And Ways to Respond
more resources about children and lying
This in-depth article talks about the different lies children tell and what they can mean with advice on how to help a child who lies to you. Read When Children Lie
This mom responded calmly despite her alarm when she found her son had lied about money in Helping My Son With Lying
Get this eBook How Children’s Emotions Work to find out how lying can be a call for extra connection
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Oct
02
Why are we parents so scared of disappointing our kids?
Are you shy of disappointing your kids?
Over the last few episodes, Abigail and Elle have been decoding emotional projects – in part one we looked at noticing behaviors which signal an emotional project, and in part two we spoke about when and how to work on an emotional project using the Hand in Hand tools.
Why it’s OK to Disappoint Our Kids
For the last part in this series, we’re taking a look at how disappointment is linked to the emotional project, why we, as parents, are so scared of disappointing our kids and why disappointment is both unavoidable and a totally acceptable part of parenting.
If you ever fund yourself torn about saying no to your child or have a hard time setting boundaries with them, listen in as we discuss the plus side of disappointing our kids, it’s role in building resilience and – despite all the odds – closeness.
Listen to Why Are We Parents so Scared to Disappoint our Kids? and find out why when we disappoint our kids – and support them through it – we can impart some useful life lessons.
Find out:
- Why parents will always disappoint their kids
- How to reframe disappointment from a negative to a positive
- How we can support kids as they feel disappointment
More Resources About Kids and Disappointment
This post demonstrates how Hand in Hand Instructor Anca Deaconu supported her son through a disappointment Handling Child Disappointments
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